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                                                                       Monogamy, Polygamy, Morality
                                                                                                   Article cR
                           Note newer article dC and article cT should also be read with this article

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           The object of this article is not to merely learn about polygamy, but is to better understand God's real moral laws
    and principles, which principles can be better understood if the issue of polygamy is properly understood.  God's
    laws concerning divorce and remarriage cannot be properly understood unless the subject of polygamy is properly
    understood.  This article neither is intended to portray that polygamy has the same natural place in the Christian era
    that it had it old Jewish times.         cR-1

           In considering this subject it should be considered that numerous Old Testament Scriptures could be understood
    to encourage having only one wife, largely like several New Testament Scriptures can be.  Following are several Old
    Testament Scriptures that could be understood to encourage men to have only one wife;         cR-2

           (Gen 2:18)  "And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet
    for him."  Note this verse says and help meet for him rather than help meets for him.          cR-3

           (Gen 2:24)  "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall
    be one flesh."  Note how this verse says he shall cleave to his wife rather than to his wives.          cR-4

           (Mal 2:14-15)  "Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy
    youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. {15}
    And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly
    seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth."  Note how
    this Scripture also could very much be understood to mean that God intended man to only have one wife even in
    the old Jewish times.         cR-5

           It is quite clear that Noah and His sons only had one wife, at the time of the flood.  This issue also could have
    been used in old times to promote having only one wife.         cR-6

           Although various Old Testament Scriptures and issues could be understood to mean that man should only have
    one wife, yet numerous Old Testament Scriptures clearly reveal that Jewish men were permitted to have more than
    one wife (Deu 21:15-16, Exo 21:10, Lev 18:18, Deu 25:5).  It also is clear that in old times numerous very God
    fearing men had more than one wife and had various concubines.  Abraham the father of faith appears to have had
    various concubines (Gen 25:6), David the man after God's own heart had quite a number of wives and concubines
    which God said He had given him (2 Sam 5:13, 12:7-8).  While also it appears Moses who was the meekest man
    and most intimate with God, also had more than one wife (Numbers 12:1-2).  Others famous Bible characters that
    had more than one wife and concubines are, Jacob, Gideon, and Solomon.  Numerous other Bible characters having
    more than one wife could also be mentioned (1 Sam 1:2, 2 Chr 11:21, 2 Chr 13:21, 2 Chr 24:2-3).  The writings of
    Josephus and other early histories clearly reveal that polygamy was quite common and accepted among the Jews
    even during Christ's ministry and for many years thereafter.  Such writings are given in paragraphs zE 1-6.  Note,
    although Old Testament Scriptures clearly allowed having more than one wife, yet the Old Testament still reproved
    having too many wives, which excess and error King Solomon fell into Deu 17:17, 1 Kings 11:3).          cR-7

          Now with regards to having more than one wife in the Christian era, the writer in studying the subject some
    years ago was surprised to find basically only one or two New Testament teachings which could be understood to
    disallow having more than one wife.  Although I was surprised New Testament Scriptures did not more clearly or
    strongly disallow polygamy, I yet at that time advocated having only one wife based on those Scriptures.  The one
    Scripture reads as follows;         cR-8

          (Mat 19:4-6)  "And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the
    beginning made them male and female, {5} And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall
    cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? {6} Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What
    therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder."  Note this Scripture is also given in Mark 10:6-9, and
    almost identically.        cR-9

          Note, although this Scripture particularly speaks of twain becoming one flesh, yet it is quite clear that Jesus' real
    emphasis in this Scripture was not numbers of wives, but rather His emphasis was the twain, male and female
    becoming one flesh in marriage, and which twain when made one by God were not to be put asunder by man.  One
    should consider that this Scripture basically does not emphasize having only one wife any more distinctly than Old
    Testament Scriptures when polygamy clearly was allowed.  Yet some still advocate that when God first made man
    (Genesis 2:18&24), He instituted marriage as for only one man and one woman, and feel Jesus in the above
    Scripture was reestablishing that original order.          cR-10

          God's old Jewish order of having numerous wives, as had Holy men of old, as compared to a possible new order
    wherein one wife is strictly allowed and where more is even inherently sinful and adulterous, is not a small change
    or matter but is a serious and momentous issue.  One should consider that Jesus in His above marital teaching was
    speaking to a people and society, whose strong religious laws allowed polygamy, secondly a people whose famous
    ancient leaders had many wives, and thirdly a people where polygamy was still quite common and accepted among
    them, and therewith consider if Jesus by His above teaching was trying to change this deep rooted and major order,
    He did not do it in a clear or distinct manner at all.  His teaching did not disallow polygamy any more than Old
    Testament Scriptures when polygamy clearly was allowed.  Jesus often said, "it hath been said in old times, but I
    say unto you", which He for some reason did not do regarding polygamy.          cR-11

          Jesus in several Scriptures clearly speaks against faulty divorces and remarriages, which Scriptures some people
    feel pertain to polygamy.  These people actually advocate that new marriages following unjust divorces are of
    necessity polygamous because the first marriage is really still intact and thus creates more than one wife.  If Jesus
    meant to particularly rebuke polygamy He might and could have said,  "it hath been said thou shall not take a
    woman and her sister to wife in her life time, but I say unto you, he that hath two wives commits adultery" (Lev 18:
    18), or could have said, "It hath been said the man who takes another wife must continue to fulfill his duty of
    providing for his first wife, but I say unto you he that hath more than one wife commits adultery" (Ex 21:10).   
    Although Jesus for some reason never spoke as such, He clearly rebuked the cruel putting away of a wife because
    of seeking another, and not wanting to be bothered with his prior wife.          cR-12

          In old Jewish times a man according to the letter of the Jewish laws, if cunning and alluring enough might have
    been able to legally get his neighbor's wife.  He would have done this by first alluring and greatly winning her
    affections, while she then in desiring him and desiring to be released from her present husband would become so
    contrary to him that he simply would put her away, afterwhich she then would marry the one who first allured her.  
    It is quite clear that Jesus in His teachings about faulty divorces and remarriages being adulterous, very much was
    reproving such things rather than particularly reproving polygamy.  Jesus also in His teaching against looking on a
    woman to lust after and win her was reproving such things.  It also appears Jesus in His anti divorce and remarriage
    teachings was restricting particular liberties that were being taken to divorce and remarry based on Deu 24:1-
    4.          cR-13

          Jesus in his special parable of the ten virgins, spoke of ten virgins going forth to meet the bridegroom, which
    some believe pertained to polygamy.  Whatever the truth regarding such is, it must be admitted that Jesus in this
    parable did not make a special reproof of polygamy.         cR-14

          It appears the main New Testament Scriptures which might be understood to disallow polygamy are Apostle
    Paul's teachings with regards to electing elders into the church.  Such Scriptures follow;          cR-15

          (1 Tim 3:2)  "A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behavior, given
    to hospitality, apt to teach;"         cR-16

          (1 Tim 3:12)  "Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses
    well."         cR-17

          (Titus 1:6)  "If any be blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of riot or
    unruly."         cR-18

          This article will now extensively consider the above teachings of Paul.  Concerning these verses some believe
    they rather than disallowing having more than one wife, are teaching that church leaders should for sure have one
    wife and thus simply be married.  Yet such interpretation of these verses is quite doubtful as Apostle Paul himself
    was unmarried and even encouraged others to be unmarried like him to thus be more free to labor in the Gospel.  
    Another issue to consider is that the Greek word "one" as in the above Scriptures can also be translated as first (as
    is done in numerous Scriptures), which if done here would make these verses simply require elders to still be
    married to their first wife, even though they might have a second wife.  Such interpretation would thus require that
    those chosen as elders would not be divorced.  This interpretation is also somewhat doubtful although worthy of
    notice.  A third interpretation regarding Paul's one wife for elders teachings, is that Paul might have desired elders to
    be chosen who had only one wife to be thus more free to labor in the Gospel, as Paul in another Scripture insofar
    encouraged men to not even have one wife to thus be more free to labor in the Gospel (1 Cor 7&21-23 & 32-33).  
    Although such could very well be part of the reason for Paul's one wife teachings, it yet appears Paul had more in
    mind than just that.          cR-19

          In carefully examining Paul's above one wife teachings, it should be considered how John the baptist taught that
    he that had two coats should give to him that has none (Luke 3:11), and therewith considered that it would be quite
    unjust for one man to have two wives while other worthy men could have none.  This obviously is a very big issue
    against polygamy.  Another very vital issue to consider is that Paul in his above one wife teachings, very much
    could have been refuting the old time tradition or thinking that elders and rulers had the right to have more wives
    than others could have.  Jesus, regarding the Christian era, advocated that Christian leaders should be servants of all
    rather than living superior to those whom they lead, thus Christian leaders clearly should not expect to have more
    wives than others (Luke 22:25-27).  Although such application of Paul's teaching clearly would encourage one wife
    for all, rather than allow the leader rank to have numerous wives and others possibly none, yet it still does not
    necessarily portray polygamy as by it's very nature being depraved and adulterous behaviour, when many women
    are available as sometimes were in Israelitish history.         cR-20

          Isaiah 3:25-4:1 speaking of a time of an abundance of women reads, "Thy men shall fall by the sword, and thy
    mighty in the war. {26} And her gates shall lament and mourn; and she being desolate shall sit upon the ground. {4:
    1} And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, We will eat our own bread, and wear our own
    apparel: only let us be called by thy name, to take away our reproach."  If Paul had been writing in a time and
    society when women were in abundance as this, Paul might have written differently concerning one wife for elders.  
    In old Jewish times females were sometimes had in abundance.  In old times when the Jews fought in political wars,
    their religious laws often allowed them to keep the women alive for themselves even though they were to kill all the
    enemy males (Deu 20:12-14, Deu 21:10-13, Num 31:17-18, 1 Sam 25:22).  Because of the Jews taking females
    from their enemies, and Jewish men also getting killed in battle, at times their was an abundant supply of women,
    giving much added potential for polygamy.          cR-21

          When the Israelites left Egypt it appears polygamy was at a real high because of so many male children having
    been slain by Pharoah and leaving many women for every male.  The book of Numbers clearly says their were only
    22,273 firstborns among a great multitude including 603,550 males above 20 years old and yet young and strong
    enough to be able to go to war, and thus a multitude likely having more than 1,000,000 males in all (Num 1:46, 3:39-
    50).  Now if their were 1,000,000 males in this group there would normally therewith also be at least 1,000,000
    women making a multitude of 2,000,000 and all these with only 22,273 firstborns.  Note it is also possible and likely
    there were many more females than males, as many males were slain by Pharoah, but to be conservative we will
    figure a multitude of 1,000,000 males and 1,000,000 females, although most sources give a much higher estimate.  
    Now note, each first born represents a family (unless a family never had a son or the firstborn died), and thus
    according to the number of firstborns their would have only been 22,273 families in a multitude of at least
    2,000,000.  Calculations thus show there were approximately 89 people per family unit.  Yet, possibly their were a
    significant amount of families without firstborns because of some Israelites not putting blood on the door posts and
    thus their firstborn was slain, thus allowing for significantly more family units (than firstborns), and thus less people
    in each family unit, and making this unbelievable family number significantly less than 89 per family.  Yet even if
    there were only 50 members per family their would still have had to be numerous wives in each family unit to
    create such large family numbers.  Thus it appears polygamy was at a real high when the Israelites left Egypt.        
    cR-22

          The real question that this article is focusing upon is whether in the Christian era the very principle of one man
    having more than one wife is inherently evil and adulterous, even if their were many extra women and it actually
    provided women with the added opportunity of a desired marriage and children which she could not otherwise have,
    and is not unjust to other men in any way.  It is clear that God's establishment (as in the Mosaic law), to destroy all
    the males among their enemies and to keep alive the women for themselves (Deu 20:10-17, Deu 21:10-13), very
    much encouraged polygamy, while if polygamy was something God really disliked and something only permitted
    because of the hardness of men's hearts (as some advocate), why did God intentionally provide the women to
    accommodate it?  God very much could have commanded the Jews to slay the enemy women together with the
    men or at least disallowed them from taking these women into their society.  Note, God also commanded Jewish
    men to take the wife of their childless and deceased brother to themselves to raise up seed to their brother.  Did
    such polygamy, relate to the hardness of their hearts, or was it not a act of kindness to their brother's family.  It
    does not appear it was an act of the hardness of Boaz's heart when he in polygamy took Ruth to wife.  Note Boaz
    was already older and very likely was already married when he took Ruth to wife (Ruth 3:10).           cR-23

          God's old order of having numerous wives, as had Holy men of old, as compared to a possible new order
    wherein one wife is strictly allowed and where more is inherently adulterous, is not a small change or matter but is a
    momentous and serious change, while if Paul in his one wife for elders Scriptures actually was establishing rules for
    such a serious change, it is quite clear he would not have merely focused his one wife emphasis on church leaders
    as he did, and appears he would have written more vehemently about the issue.  One should also notice that Paul's
    particular one wife emphasis largely was written to Gentile Christians, while concerning the Jews who clearly were
    very accustomed to polygamy, the Bible does not record Jesus or any of the Apostles giving them any particular
    teaching regarding this great moral change.  If polygamy which was so freely allowed and accepted in old times,
    suddenly became inherently depraved and adulterous, it very much appears this change would have been
    particularly taught by Jesus and other Apostles, rather than only by Apostle Paul, and then in the limited manner as
    in his above Scriptures.  These issues dare not be overlooked.          cR-24

          Now all the above acceptance of polygamy does not mean that Christian men should now expect to have more
    than one wife, as such most often would be impossible, and various Scriptures in both the Old and New Testament
    speak of marriage as normally for one man and woman.  Yet the above does mean that polygamy is not necessarily
    sinful, strange, and heinous as many might think.  Rather in old times it was an honorable and God approved
    alternate family lifestyle.          cR-25

          In considering polygamy and why it is so rejected and infamous in our society, one should very much be aware
    that in the early centuries of Christianity a very erroneous attitude towards marriage and intimacy developed.  The
    false anti sex attitude of the early centuries counted intimacy in marriage a shameful relation, and even restricted
    marital sex as being only appropriate for reproductive purposes.  Note, if sex were only allowable as an honest
    endeavor to cause offspring and otherwise unallowable, then sex would scarcely be allowed even in marriage, and
    being within the marriage environment would only increase one's desire for what he cannot have, and Apostle Paul
    rather than saying it is "better to marry than to burn", should have said it is "better to stay away from the marriage
    environment than to burn" (1 Cor 7:9)!!  In due time this anti marriage and sex attitude progressed to the place
    where it totally disallowed marriage among the church leaders as is seen in the Roman Catholic Church today.  The
    anti marriage and sex attitude of the early centuries was sadly erroneous, and has been painful to countless humans
    and has had very far reaching affects in our world.  Apostle Paul fortold of and spoke of this anti marriage emphasis
    as the doctrine of Devils (1 Tim 4:1-3).  Research clearly reveals it had it's roots in heathendom rather than in
    Judaism.  Various erroneous anti sex writings of the early centuries are given in article cE.  It is quite clear that the
    reason polygamy is so greatly despised and holds such a bad reputation in our society today is not because of any
    particular Biblical emphasis and it is inherently evil, but is largely a result of the doctrine of Devils which disallowed
    marriage.  Note, the false anti sex and marriage emphasis of the early centuries was so opposed to men having two
    different wives that it did not even allow men to remarry if their wife died, while this anti marriage emphasis then
    was so much the more disdaining and rejective of polygamy.  This anti marriage emphasis condemned remarriages
    even if one's wife died as specious adultery and counted the man who remarried as such a cloaked adulterer
    (Athenagoras, ECF Vol 2 Pages 279).        cR-26

          The doctrine of Devils which disallowed marriage has and is doing much evil.  It greatly damaged proper
    intimacy within marriage, soon didn't allow church elders to marry at all, didn't allow one to take a second wife
    even if his first wife died, and therewith portrayed having more than one wife which was freely done by Holy men
    of old as a terrible error and disgrace.  Yet it now is trying to encourage marriage and intimacy as between gays and
    lesbians!  Oh may God deliver us from the doctrine of Devils, and teach us the truth about these things!        cR-27

          Although just the thought of having more than one wife might seem absurd and repulsive to us who are so
    accustomed to the monogamy tradition, yet in the Jewish culture having numerous wives was not thought of as
    strange or dishonorable at all, while rather the successful, famous, and rich often had more than one wife.  Yet
    obviously in the polygamy lifestyle the husband was to be loving and caring of both or all his wives, while the wives
    were also to be loving to each other and the whole broader family.  God particularly commanded that husbands in
    taking another wife should not neglect their prior wife or wives  (Ex 21:10).         cR-28

          It is quite obvious that polygamy is not wrong in God's eyes because of it being immoral, lascivious, depraved or
    necessarily excessive.  If polygamy were such a improper thing it is quite obvious that God would not have allowed
    Godly men of old to freely have more than one wife as He did.  Nor does it appear polygamy is necessarily wrong
    because of man being unable to properly love more than one wife, and being particularly oppressive and unfair
    towards women.  Although it is likely that polygamy would be more agreeable and pleasing to men than to women,
    yet it appears there are also some advantages to women in the polygamy arrangement.  Wives in a polygamy
    setting, normally could be more independent and more free to pursue personal interests than if they were the only
    wife, while yet being able to be a mother and within a family.  In a society where there are far more women then
    men, polygamy in one respect would be more fair to women then monogamy, as polygamy in that situation would
    make it more possible for all women who wanted to marry to do so.          cR-29

          Within the monogamy order, wives obviously do have the opportunity to be more important to and closer to their
    husbands.  Yet in the monogamy setting the domineering wife also has more opportunity to manipulate and rule her
    husband.  God ordained that the husband should rule in the family, while it does not appear He would then place
    the wife in a position where she can readily control her husband.  It does not appear that God would tell the
    husband to rule his wife and then bind the husband with restrictions towards his wife which would in reality give her
    the rod and keys (dominance advantages).  May God help us to truly understand His moral and marriage laws.  God
    speaking of a sad time among His people in old times said "As for my people, children are their oppressors, and
    women rule over them. O my people, they which lead thee cause thee to err, and destroy the way of thy paths."
    (Isa 3:12).         cR-30

          Many women in our present society might feel very deserving and worthy of being the one and only wife, and
    largely demand the natural importance and dominance monogamy can give them with their husband.  Yet one
    should consider the wondrous humility of Abigail one of the wives of David, who said to David, "Behold, let thine
    handmaid be a servant to wash the feet of the servants of my lord." (1 Sam 25:41).  Abigail had a very humble
    spirit even though the Bible particularly states she was a woman of a beautiful countenance.  Although monogamy
    clearly can contribute to a closer bond between the husband and wife, yet monogamy by no means guarantees that
    husbands and wives will be properly intimate and important to each other.  Sometimes in strained or troubled
    monogamy marriages, the children (with the exception of sexual intimacy) really become the closest and most
    important companion of the father or mother, and while little intimacy is had between the husband and wife.  It is
    even possible in our modern homes, for the telephone to almost become the wife's foremost companion.        cR-31

          As one better understands polygamy as in Biblical history, and learns how the doctrines of Devils so greatly
    restricted and disrupted God's marriage and sexual plan, one can see God's moral laws and principles in a quite new
    and more free dimension.  The doctrine of Devils not only disallowed marriage but also very much disallowed the
    blessings God created and intended to surround it.  Not only was marriage and sexual intimacy frowned upon by
    those who disdained marriage, but woman and the special beauty God has given her was not respected but rather
    was quite discredited.  Tertullian writing to women wrote, "You are the devil’s gateway: you are the unsealer of that
    (forbidden) tree: you are the first deserter of the divine law: you are she who persuaded him [man] whom the devil
    was not valiant enough to attack. ...And do you think about adorning yourself over and above your tunics of
    skins?"  (ECF, Vol 4, Page 25).  Tertullian also taught that if God intended that woman wear beautifully colored
    clothing He would had created colored sheep to provide the colored wool!  Tertullian also encouraged that women
    should be so masked or veiled that their faces should scarcely be visible.  (ECF, Vol 4, Page 45&63&73&74).  
    Obviously such writers, and such a religious emphasis had little respect for feminine beauty or sexual enjoyment of
    any kind.  Justin Martyr another early writer in his erroneous approach towards sex went as far as to write, "And
    our Lord Jesus Christ was born of a virgin, for no other reason than that He might destroy the begetting by lawless
    desire" (ECF, Vol 1, Page 590).  How absurd!  Jesus was born of a virgin because He was the Son of God and as a
    special witness of such Sonship, and not born of a virgin to destroy and be a witness against sex!  Remember Paul
    spoke of it being the doctrine of Devils that would arise and disallow marriage!  Although the above writers were
    very anti sex and anti feminine beauty, yet in old Jewish times feminine beauty was not despised, while rather
    numerous Scriptures speak of women who were particularly fair and beautiful, and the Jews even sought the most
    beautiful damsel in the land to come and lay with King David to help enliven him and restore him to health when he
    was old and feeble (1 King 1:1-4).  This beautiful damsel likely was simply considered as another one of David's
    wives or concubines.  Apostle Paul also spoke of woman being the glory of man as something very glorious for him,
    and also spoke of woman's naturally beautiful and longer hair being a glorious and God given covering to her, which
    was a shame to remove or destroy, and which Paul did not intend should always be veiled, as some do in our world
    today (1 Cor 11:6-7&15).          cR-32

          Although in old times, Godly husbands could intimately and honorably appreciate more than one wife, and
    Jewish wives didn't even expect to be the one and only, yet possibly many a wife in our society is so indoctrinated
    into monogamy, or so jealous of being the one and only, that she cannot even imagine her husband merely looking
    upon feminine beauty other than what she might have, while she neither might try to provide him with pleasing
    feminine beauty, and which beauty (even if on a mere photo) can very wondrously increase her husbands love and
    affections for her, and even if not her present or personal beauty.  Note the good and edifying place of feminine
    beauty as God created for man and was appreciated in old Jewish times, as well as the sin of looking on a beautiful
    woman with an evil wish or intention (lust) is extensively considered in article cK.  Such article considers edifying
    and expedient feminine beauty, as well as perverted and excessive sex and what really is pornography.  Although
    God very much designed and intends that woman and the beauty He has given her should be loved and appreciated,
    yet the doctrine of Devils portrays such feminine love as weak, embarrassing, lustful, and evil, while encouraging
    real men to rather love material gain and money which love the Bible reproves!          cR-33

          It is very sad how many Christians have been deceived into thinking the opposition and contempt to marriage
    as was taught by the doctrines of Devils was actually the voice of God and were brought into bondage and difficulty
    by it!  Likely many sincere Christians find in hard to really grasp that God's laws are good and are laws of true
    freedom simply because of being under the influence of the doctrines of men and Devils with regards to sex as well
    as other issues.  Although Solomon speaks of beauty without virtue being vain, yet feminine appearance and beauty
    clearly does have a particular place in life, or in all truth the husband shouldn't care if his wife looked just like a
    male or was so fat and hairy and out of shape that she largely looked like a gorilla or orangutan.  Note, article bU
    quite extensively considers the subject of feminine appearance and beauty.         cR-34

          Because of the great sexual ban and darkness which Satan brought upon our world, over the past many
    centuries many painfully refrained from sexual blessings, while many yet proceeded with guilt, while both missed
    the blessing.  Possibly because of needless guilt, many have excessively and erroneously indulged in sexual thrills to
    try to smother their guilt, but only to find themselves more guilty and frustrated then ever.  How sad.  Likely many
    others thinking God to be erroneously anti sex and having unreasonable demands have turned against Him and all
    His sexual laws and thus had no protection against sexual errors that really are harmful and damaging.  Likely many
    who have foolishly and carelessly cursed God and religion were unawares that the religious laws that the contributed
    to God actually were the doctrines of Devils.  Jesus with good reason said,  "The thief cometh not, but for to steal,
    and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly." (John
    10:10).  Although Satan has been very busy stealing and killing, yet Jesus really came to set the captives free and
    God's laws really are laws of true liberty.  They are like walls intended to protect us and lead us into the abundant
    life.  May we be spared from Satan's afflicting walls and yet be protected by God's good walls!  If God had not
    ordained the walls and laws of marriage and it were proper and customary for men and women every day, without
    respect and care for others, to take any mate whoever they could allure to themselves, one can hardly imagine how
    much anxiety, envy, and strife would be encountered throughout our lives.  God's marriage laws very much help
    provide secure mates and secure children, and are laws we can love!  God's marriage laws rather than merely
    upholding a particular theological or religious standard of life are for our good and are very meaningful.        cR-35

          The real object of this article certainly is not to encourage men to take additional wives, but rather is to simply
    learn whether the very principle of man having and appreciating more than one wife has suddenly in the Christian
    era become evil and adulterous, although it was so acceptable in old times.  As polygamy and the issues surrounding
    it are better understood, God's real moral and sexual boundaries also can be better perceived.  This article is
    weighing and examining polygamy in the situation where there are extra women to accommodate it, and thus in the
    context where it would provide women with a greater possibility of marriage if desired, and where it neither is unjust
    to other men.  In concluding the writer would like to yet give three quite basic issues regarding polygamy;          cR-
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          Issue One, in old Jewish times God very much allowed polygamy and it was honorably practiced by Godly
    men of old (if with temperance and discretion), as well as continuing to be practiced to some extent by the Jews in
    the days of Jesus' ministry.  One should here remember the famous union of Boaz and Ruth which appears was
    polygamous.  Note, in later years polygamy might have been practiced less among the Jews simply because of
    lessor women being available to accommodate it.          cR-37

          Issue Two,  considering how accepted and deep rooted the polygamy tradition was within the Jewish culture, it
    does not appear that Paul's one wife for elders emphasis, and which could have various intentions, by itself is
    sufficient teaching to appropriately reveal and proclaim to humanity the severe change as in traditional polygamy,
    suddenly in the Christian era becoming inherently adulterous and immoral, and without any teachings from Christ or
    other Apostles further revealing this great moral change.  One should also notice that Paul's particular one wife
    emphasis largely was written to Gentile Christians, while concerning the Jews who clearly were very accustomed to
    polygamy, the Bible does not record Jesus or any of the Apostles giving them any particular teaching regarding this
    great moral change.  One should also remember that Paul in his one wife for elder emphasis might have been
    especially refuting the old tradition of elders and leaders thinking they had the right to more wives than others, while
    also requesting elders be those who are as free as possible from wife and family responsibilities.          cR-38

          Issue Three, the false anti marriage emphasis of the early centuries which rejected marriage and intimacy therein,
    and which Paul called the doctrines of Devils, seems to be the main reason polygamy in itself is so greatly despised
    and rejected among some societies today, rather than because of any particular Biblical teaching portraying
    polygamy in itself as being immoral and adulterous.  It also is clear that this anti marriage and sex emphasis is still
    affecting our present world in various ways.           cR-39

                  Although it does not appear the Bible supports or reveals the great change as in polygamy suddenly in the
    Christian era becoming inherently erroneous and adulterous, yet as said before polygamy still does not fit the normal
    Christian society as well as it did the old Israelitish society, and simply because there naturally was more of an
    abundance of women in the old Israelitish society.  Two basic issues against polygamy are, firstly the obvious fact
    that God simply did not ordain that many more women should be born than men and secondly the fact that extra
    wives can create extra responsibilities and Apostle Paul even insofar encouraged men to not be married at all, to
    thus be more free to pursue the things of God rather than the cares of women.  Yet it is true that a virtuous woman
    can even help her husband in the Gospel if she is a woman given to that cause.          cR-40

          Within the boundaries of polygamy, one should consider that various vital issues would need to be considered
    before one would actually take an additional wife.  The first and foremost issue would be; how does God look at it
    for one's very situation, another issue is would it be fair or oppressive to other men, a third issue is how would it
    affect one's present wife, and a forth vital issue would concern whether it would be justifiable in one's particular
    society which might frown on and be offended by it.  Even though polygamy scarcely fits into our present time and
    society and normally would be the exception, yet understanding the Biblical issues surrounding polygamy can very
    much help one better perceive God's moral laws and principles and better perceive His laws about divorce and
    remarriage.  May God help us to distinguish between His laws and the laws of men.  In conclusion the writer
    encourages the reader to read the article titled "God and Religion, What's it all About?" posted at "www.
    TeachMeGod.com".  God bless and farewell.        cR-41

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